It’s been 3 and a half years since I left uni. Whenever someone asks, I still say ‘I’ve just finished uni’ and I don’t even know why. It feels like forever ago.
BUT whether you have noticed or not, life passes by really fast and suddenly you’re an adult but not an adult and still look at people in their late 20’s (despite being 25) for guidance because they are real adults, no?
So to stop me having a meltdown and panicking about life, I use these methods to keep myself afloat (effectiveness may vary).
1. Always have a goal/aim/something to look forwards to
Since the age of 2, I have ALWAYS been in some form of education. It meant that there was always something ahead. Whether it was GCSE’s/A-Level or my degree, it was there and it was certain.
Suddenly, aged 21 I didn’t have anything ahead of me, that freedom that we all dream of is suddenly a reality and even 3 years on I still dream I was in my University comfort blanket.
I decided that the best way to get through that is to always have something to look forwards to. Whether it a holiday, travel plans, work deadline or even meeting up with a friend for coffee. Just like at uni, I need a date to work towards except this time I try to make it more enjoyable.
2. Don’t compare where you are with someone else of a similar age.
I learned this straight off the back, it doesn’t matter what you are doing in life, as long as it makes you happy. Aiming to be somewhere in a certain amount of time is absolutely okay and also okay if when you reach that date, you’re not ready.
E.g. I’d quite like to own a business by the time I’m 30. It’s a rough goal but sometimes life gets in the way and it might mean it happens later. Alternatively, the right moment might approach me next week. Who knows!
3. Own a diary
Write it down. Dear lord above I’m only 25 and things leave my brain as quickly as they enter. My memory was so sharp as a teen and I could remember what coloured pencil I used to write my name for the first time and what I ate on my school trip to the Police Station in year 2. Now, I work in a bar and I have to check 3 times with someone if they wanted diet or regular coke… I mean Pepsi damnit. So write that doctor’s appointment down and the shift you said you’d cover.
4. Be a little bit more conscious
As a young adult, we don’t realise how much we will influence the future. Follow politics. It’s not essential to understand it all because quite honestly I don’t even think all the members of parliament have a clue what’s going on. However at some point we will have the opportunity to have a say.
Make your own mind up, don’t vote for something because someone says it’s ‘right’ – see current Brexit Crisis for evidence.
How can we make our world better? What can you do as an adult to make a positive change? Remember, your opinion matters!
Politics is not necessarily the only thing we can do. Recycle that empty box of chocolates left over from the holiday period! Gogogo!
5. Don’t always have the answer.
Sometimes people force their opinions on me and I start to panic.
You should do this before you have kids and can’t do it anymore
I get it but if you haven’t decided what you want to do in life, don’t be panicked into a decision because others think it’s right.
May I remind a lot of people that kids do grow up and there is life after. I know many people who have done most of their travelling aged 50 and over and many people who have got a degree later on in life. There’s far too much pressure to cram it all in during your 20s and it doesn’t have to be that way!
So next time someone tells you what you should be doing – tell them you don’t know and you’re okay with it! Your life goals don’t have to be shared with everyone. It might be as simple as ‘being happy’
Thanks for reading! Tell me what sort of things you do to keep focused.