6 steps to help keep calm when making a big decision

It’s inevitable. At one point in our lives we hit a road that has multiple turns and sometimes it feels like our heads are going to explode and we’re going to stop at a dead end. I.e. Spend the next 50/60 years watching Netflix and achieving a big fat 0.

Not that there’s anything wrong with Netflix, if there was a job going that required me watching it all day then I’d genuinely be getting paid to do what I love.

We all respond differently to big decisions, some take it in their stride and face it head on and others (like myself) try to bury their heads in the sand and hope it goes away.

This past month, I have been tackling these big decisions and have had to take a step back and remember that I CAN do this.

Whether it’s deciding which university to go to, moving house, changing jobs/careers or suddenly deciding to take up horseriding, these steps might help you become more grounded.

1. The goal

Think about what exactly it is that you want, be honest with yourself. Once you know the end goal, write it in big letters somewhere. Don’t start thinking how you’re going to get to it just yet. Just know what it is that youre aiming for.

2. One step at a time

Organise your thoughts. What’s the first step in order to reach your destination? Before everything else, what’s the number one thing?

I ask this rhetorically as it might be as simple as opening up your laptop and googling something.

If you want to buy a car, your first task might be looking at realistically how much you can put aside each month. The second step might be when you want to have the car by and the third step might be what car you can get within that budget and time frame.

3. Get proactive

It’s sometimes very difficult to motivate yourself to a point where you’re doing anything about the big decision you have to make.

Put that first step into place. Celebrate the little milestones on the way.

Take that first step and commit!

Book the flight, send the email, apply for the job, buy the shoes! Worry after.

4. Be prepared for set backs

Sometimes there are things that get in the way. A big bill might have to be paid off that month which sets your goal back. It happens and as long as we keep in the back of our minds that life isn’t always plain sailing, there’s always going to be a way to tackle the setbacks.

Don’t let a stumble put you off your journey.

5. It doesn’t always have to please others

Some decisions we make in life might not please others. It’s impossible to make everybody happy at the same time and for some this is a difficult situation to accept. Most people will be happy for you and the ones who aren’t will have to deal with it. End of story!

Be a little bit selfish and remember to value yourself.

6. Don’t abandon your hobbies

It’s SO important to enjoy life at the same time. It’s no good trying to get from A to B and HATING everything else in between.

If you have to budget, that’s good. But don’t cut out your monthly cinema trip if it’s something that makes you happy.

Find ways to cut back without having to abandon what you love. Buy a travel mug and save a few pennies when you take away. Save a little and save the planet!

Changing your career/lifestyle/prospects can be really challenging. Don’t forget why you’re doing it! It can be a stressful time with many hurdles so remember to take care of your brain and body as you’re going to need them!

This post reflects upon my recent decisions, you can see them here: Life Update March 2019

Tell me about your changes in life. Big or small, I want to hear them!

12 thoughts on “6 steps to help keep calm when making a big decision”

  1. i can relate to this post…one year ago i was working as an engineer in an MNC…but now i am an artist and a blogger. I left my job due to my chronic illness and it was a huge career change….but now i am happy in whatever i am doing… change can be intimidating at first but you never know what it will bring you in future… 🙂🙂🍁

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    1. This is so true! I’m so glad you’ve found happiness. It’s not easy for some of us to find the right career path and I’m hoping this next month or so will tell!

      Thank you for your inspiring comment 😊❤️

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  2. Yes, these are some great ideas! These sorts of things really helped me when I had to decide between staying in a job that I loved with almost impossible pay or going for a job that I didn’t know whether I’d enjoy (but paid much better). Being proactive was the hardest step, but I did it, and remembering that your choices are for you is also so important. Glad I didn’t take the easy option as I’m now in an even better job!

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    1. That’s so good to hear! It’s hard and scary and it’ll be a little while before I start my new career but it’s a step in the right direction at least.
      Yeah it’s really hard having to say ‘I’m doing this for me’ but it shouldn’t be!

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  3. This is a great post, I particularly liked when you said to remember your decisions don’t always have to please other people. I think that’s a real trap that I fall into a lot! Thanks for sharing.

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  4. This is such a great post Jess. I always struggle making small or big decisions so I will keep these tips in mind.
    One thing I do is budget each week and I only allow myself one treat but what’s the point in that? Need to learn to live a bit


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